Orgasm Denial and Penis Pain – Holding Back Can Cause Problems

Adventurous sex play can be an exciting way to enliven a relationship, but some forms, such as orgasm denial, do carry with them a certain degree of penis pain. The risk of and degree of pain involved can vary from non-existent to substantial, depending upon the manner in which the man’s ejaculatory state is controlled. When indulging in this game, both partners need to take steps to ensure that the fun does not have a negative impact on the guy’s penis health.

What is orgasm denial?

Very simply put, orgasm denial is a sexual scenario in which one partner (male or female) forbids a male partner the opportunity of releasing semen. The length of time of the denial can vary: some couples may engage in the denial for only a few minutes or a few hours, while others may strive for a few days or weeks. Couples who are seriously into the denial lifestyle may even opt for periods of months or, possibly, years, although the latter would be very rare indeed.

Why do it?

As any man who has practiced edging (masturbating to the edge of ejaculating, then stopping and repeating several times) can attest, sometimes prolonging the release of semen can produce an intensely strong orgasm. Many men who engage in denial with a partner find they have fewer orgasms, but the ones they have are well worth the wait.

The pain

Some degree of discomfort is part and parcel of the denial game. The amount and type of pain can vary significantly depending on how the release of semen is controlled. Some examples of pain which may result include:

Blue balls. This is a no-brainer. All men are familiar with “natural” blue balls – being in an aroused state and not being in a position to achieve release. In some cases, the desire for release can be so intense that the genitals experience an actual aching pain. With denial, especially in situations in which arousal occurs for continuous stretches of time, the pain can be considerable.

Raw penis. Keeping the penis aroused for long periods of time requires constant physical stimulation. A partner’s bare hand, a gloved hand, a towel, a penis sleeve, a plastic vagina or other devices may be employed to maintain erection; over time, these can cause the penis skin to become raw and sore.

Chastity cages. When a man’s orgasm is being denied for days or weeks, his partner will often lock the penis away in a chastity cage in between arousal sessions. A man can still experience erections when locked away, but the enclosed space can make this painful. This type of erection control is not generally recommended and should only be undertaken with extreme caution and care, as severe or chronic problems related to the penile tissue may result from this type of handling.

As with many sex games between consenting adults, orgasm denial can be a positive or a negative experience. Knowing the level of penis pain desired is key. All men who indulge in this form of sex play should make sure they employ a top quality penis health formula (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) regularly to help soothe the overworked and sore penis. Extra special soothing relief will be assured if a man uses a formula that includes a high end emollient such as shea butter. In addition, the formula must also include acetyl L carnitine; this ingredient is neuroprotective and can help avoid penis desensitization, which can occur from too much rough handling of the organ. Applying a cream like this on a daily basis can help to keep the penis in top form, ready for any type of stimulation, and can help to prevent common problems before they start.

Orgasm Denial and Penis Pain – Holding Back Can Cause Problems by John Dugan